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Tuesday, 25 February 2014

The Evil Of A Careless Yesterday.

                     The Evil Of A Careless Yesterday.

  At the gate of tomorrow waits patiently the mistakes and carelessness of yesterday? It stands quietly, arms akimbo and gaze seriously into the air of anxiety. Just like the droppings of a rat, it always leaves a trail for everyone to see.


So is the latter tale of a misguided and care free yesterday. A day that never fades with time, rather it clings to the memory like a helpless child cling to its mother.

Now the eyes is open wide, the heart is racing fast, the mind has traveled so far searching for a better picture, a picture that leaves out the scary scar of “yesterday”.
A farmer is never scared of yesterday, because that was the day he sowed his seed, a thief never sleeps when he remembers there is still a reality behind yesterday. A mother remembers the agony of yesterday’s labour and smile takes over her face.

A lazy man remembers yesterday and burst into tears, because of the wasted years. Why should our yesterday scare our today and why should it haunt our tomorrow. The one who created heaven and earth has put in our hands the power to influence the fruit produced by the tree of our yesterday, will it be a sweet or bitter one, which is a golden question.

The wicked sleeps in restlessness, turns and sweat in fear when he thinks or sees the picture of yesterday on the bedroom wall.
A nation coming out of a violent revolution, never wants to remember or associate with its yesterday. A father who has a wayward son curse and spit at yesterday.

We all wish that the beautiful and sweet reality of today eats up the scary and regretful memories of yesterday, but one thing will always remain, “ONLY YOU KNOW WHAT YOU DID WITH YOUR YESTERDAY”, so only you will live with the fear, anxiety, torment, hope, joy, happiness or regrets of its memories and eventual reality, which could be either beautiful or ugly.

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A Lover's Tears

                           A Lover's Tears. 

  Why has our love gone soar my love, what happened to the girdle holding our hearts together, why is everything falling apart like a park of cards. Laughter,joy,trust,commitment and peace was all we knew, but now there is something new, and that thing might break the chain holding our souls together.

Know that we exist in the body but connect in spirit. So please don’t leave me, because if you do I might dry up. I fear I might not be strong enough to move on without you, my strength lies in that thing we share, so my dear please don’t give in to the storms of life, let’s take a dive into a river that holds no fever.

Let us grow graciously together, let us mature in love, because this love is from above and it’s as beautiful as a dove.

Tears drop from my eyes when I think about the joy and peace you bring to my heart, the thought of been with you in a world that knows no mortality, puts some vitality in my day.

If you want to dry my tears, please shoot the arrow of your love into my soul, let it move and lighten up my heart, just like a comet, which moves like a bright ball in space. My mother once said its okay for a man to cry, but I say it's okay for a man to fall down flat in love.

When I think of all these it brings fresh tears from my heart through my eyes, until you bring back that love, my tears may never stop.

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Friday, 21 February 2014

Unforgivable Mistakes You Make in public

                   Unforgivable Mistakes You Make in public.

When in public be ready to meet so many people with different ideology, mentality, belief, racial and cultural background. With this at the back of your mind, you are saved from assuming, pre profiling, prejudices, stereotyping, racism and discrimination. Always prepare your mind for whatever comes, remember that how you behave in public could either make or mare your ambitions or dreams. 


1. The first mistake you make is always waiting for the next person to greet first or exchange pleasantries. Imagine everyone thinking like that, or the next person having that kind of mentality, just imagine how the world would look like. That means we all may never get to make friends and get to know the next person better.

Always try as much as possible to be ready to say Hi, Hello and how are you doing, who says it first does not matter at all. With this kind of attitude you hardly get into problems in relating with people in a public place. Some says saying hello or hi first makes you look like a fool, makes you appear cheap or easy, but it is far from it.

2. Looking down on people, even before meeting them. You just feel everyone around you is not just up to your level or standard. That is a very big mistake anyone can make in a public place. Everyone just takes you as arrogant, egocentric and cocky. It could be very, very disastrous. Not until you say it, unconsciously it comes out and the people around you pick it like a strong vibe.

3. Being careless and over bearing on the way you dress in public is another great mistake you make unknowingly, the first point of contact or mode of communication is nonverbal most times, which is through your dress sense. people think until they wear the most expensive and most times not fitting clothes, they are not complete, or thinking very loud and crazy colour combination could help get you the needed attention. That is why you need to know that how you see yourself is far better than how you make the world or public see you. To be on the saver side just be as simple and clean as possible.

4. Exhibiting low self-confidence. Never at any point try to avoid eye contact and do not look down when talking. Know that as long as you are in the public, eyes will always be on you. Some give you a warm and friendly gaze, while some just look on with disgust and all manner of thoughts going through their mind, that shouldn’t faze you. All that matters is how to get around and mix smoothly in public.

5. You are a victim if you always wear a straight and expressionless face. This attitude is repulsive and leaves you isolated in your corner. Try as much as possible to exchange a smile, give a smile when necessary and never be caught laughing so loud like you are the only one there.

6. Loose talkers, if you talk before thinking then you are in this category. Learn how to talk in public, how to be courteous and respectful. There are certain words that must be at your fingertips, they should fall off from your lips effortlessly. Words like “Excuse me, could you, please, May I, Sorry and thank you”.

7. Getting involved in an argument or discussion you know little or nothing about. This could be like nailing your own coffin. Not everything you hear you comment on, especially if the information and knowledge you have about the issue or topic in question is not concrete enough. Being quiet sometimes saves you form been called or seen as a fool or slowpoke. Never assume you know when you don’t.

8. Living a fake and scripted life is another mistake you make in public, or around people, this kind of life always backfire. When you make people see you as what you are not. When you act in public, you are predisposed to lying, when you lie, you tend to put yourself under unnecessary pressure. Be as real as possible, what you don’t like let them know you don’t like it, what you can’t eat, don’t take it close to your mouth, what you don’t know how to use don’t be quick to use it. Being real earns you respect and audience.

9. Never get lost in your own thought, try as much as possible to be in touch with where ever you are. Be pro-active in a very descent and cool way. Be ready to be part in anything that goes on around you, but not everything. Be where ever you are with your spirit, mind and body.

10. Condemning other people’s religion, belief, ideology, mentality, culture, race, way of life and opinion. Be open minded and ready to accommodate the next person’s view, even if it doesn’t support yours. Know that we all are different due to our backgrounds and environment. Always have this at the back of your mind.

11. As a lady, not knowing how to sit in public is another grave mistake any lady can make. The way you sit most times says a lot about who you are; learn how to sit like a lady, be conscious about yourself, be guarded and protected at all times.

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We Are All Gulity.

                                    We Are All Gulity.

  We all are guilty; no one is clean when it comes to this. Like a park of cards we fall victim every day to the same mistakes, weakness and excuse. To feel good you point accusing fingers at the next person, leaving yourself out of it.

Here there is no saint, we all have been stained by the things we do, if you think you are as white as snow, i oblige you to cast the first stone. I look round searching for a way out, but all route and road that leads to vindication and elevation has been blocked, no mortal can pass this test.

Immediately you took your first breath, instantly you’ve been found guilty, you ask guilty of what? And i say, leave that for another day. A mother gives all to her child, but she is still accused and found guilty, if the nation is guilty can the people that make up the nation be innocent or free from this huge sin and mistake.

How i wish i was born into this family, nation, continent, race and society, but the more you wish, the deeper you fall into the well of guilt and frustration.

I think we all need a good lawyer to defend us and prove our innocence, but come to think of it, isn’t the lawyer a mortal to,it is the same blood that flows through our veins. Can the guilty try to prove or vindicate the guilty.

There is confusion everywhere, no hope anywhere, all we can do is to beat our guilty hearts black and blue, some even say they don’t have a clue, so what do we do?

Just know that you as guilty as i am, if a baby that just took its first breath can be found guilty, how much you that have taken thousands of carnal and careless breathe, please give me a break. I know all seem and sound crazy, that is because your mind is lazy, it is not ready to search for the answers to these questions. He stands before a large crowd, prophesying and assuring the people, but right there inside the supposed holy soul, guilt is all that flows.

We all are guilty, believe it or not, but the earlier you start appreciating this cold reality, the better for you and i.

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The Beauty Of The bosom.

                               The Beauty Of The bosom.

 

  In total independence it stands with no regrets. Firm, round and voluptuous it points, this is the most beautiful and mouth-watering sight to behold. Every mortal bow and wow at its presence, as if it was a god. When unveiled the blood and adrenaline flows in total rage, ask any complete man for the tale.
It is a perfect work of art; nature was so benevolent when it made this physical and magnificent accessory of the human part. Picasso cannot paint it any better, shakes spear’s poetry is not good enough to depict the beauty and elegance this piece possesses.

How much eulogy can you pour to get it right, from the corner of every mortal mind, the picture of this edifice of wonder makes the heart and mind ponder on so many things? The mighty has fallen; the brave has been captured and rendered useless, while the strong becomes weak at the sight of a woman’s luscious and precious bosom.
Man wakes up every day and gives thanks to the one that built and created such a sweet and perfect fruit of carnality in its totality. It symbolizes different meaning to different people, to a baby that is a factory and source of energy, vitamins, lactose, immunity and nutrients. To a man lost in the world of the flesh, this piece of adipose tissue represents more than what the mind can give.

In silence he watches, in total awareness he wishes, praying and strategizing on how to devour the sweet savour of her inviting golden epitome of womanliness. A woman without a bosom is like a watch without a hand. In pride and power she controls with shoulder raised high, ego elevated into a horizon where no eyes can reach.
So sad but true, as twilight approaches, what used to be a haven of beauty, temptation, sweet imaginations, pride and total perfection suddenly and gradually starts to lose its valor and figure, it no longer moves a muscle, the flinches no more at the its sight, the eyes of the carnal man no longer sees the carnality in this piece of flesh.
At this stage, it is transformed from a mere object of sexuality into a symbol of experience, accomplishment and longevity. On its own, it starts disobeying the law of gravity. Wow!! Nature here you go again mesmerizing our shallow and mortal. 
Never the less, the woman looks at her bosom in the mirror and a beautiful and deceptive smile takes over her face, the man sees the bosom and everything that used to be okay suddenly begins to misbehave, so this is one thing man will never fail to admire every day of his life.
THE bosom

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Because Am A Woman.

                                 Because Am A Woman.

 Because of my sex, am expected to hide my emotions and feelings. What goes on inside my beautiful mind should never be expressed, even when am depressed i need to reflect happiness and joy. Before i act, i must consult the society; before i make a move, the culture, ideology, religion and belief of my people must move in to cross check every step i take. I am intelligent and strong; the world thinks there must be something wrong.They no longer look at me from the right side, all they do is get carried away by the beauty i possess outside, like it was my making that am so gorgeous and wonderfully made.

There is a feeling brewing inside me, but i can’t let you know it, if not i would be called names, and stereotypically attacked. When will i be free to be ME.? I am waiting for the day i would be left alone to exhibit those virtues and qualities inside my soul, if given another chance i would still come back a female specie, but this time i am coming to set the record straight, the values and mentality of my people towards me must change for good, this time i will have the same opportunity like the male specie, no more will i be silenced for another.
You can call me a feminist that also is on the list of the qualities i carry, why should the world see me or take me as a slave, a bearer of shame, the one that should never complain and the one that is always there to be blamed for everything that goes wrong.

I am expected to be a victim of my own emotions and loving spirit because i am a woman, my strength is not in my muscles neither is it buried inside my fresh and beautiful skin, where it dwells, the world is yet to discover it. Can’t i say no when I really mean no, most times my opinion is not regarded or important to the heart and ears of those that only believes it is a man’s world.

My joy sometimes is misconstrued; my laughter is given so many meaning, while my thought is translated even before it becomes words and actions. Let me be, i want to be judged on my abilities and not my gender and history, who says i can’t get there, who knows what i am capable of, i need the world to see from the side that truly reflects the real me.

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Thursday, 20 February 2014

Air pollution increases risk for hypertension in pregnant women

Air pollution increases risk for hypertension in pregnant women.




UF researchers compared birth data with Environmental Protection Agency estimates of air pollution, finding that heavy exposure to four air pollutants led to a significantly increased risk for developing a high blood pressure disorder during pregnancy. The research was published in the January issue of the Journal of Epidemiology & Community Health.

The pollutants include two specific types of fine and coarse particulate matter, carbon monoxide and sulfur dioxide. According to the EPA, particulate matter includes acids, dust, metals and soil particles. These inhalable particles are released from industries and forest fires and can form when gases react with each other in the air. Sulfur dioxide is emitted from power plants and industries. Most carbon monoxide is produced by car exhaust.

"Fetal development is very sensitive to environmental factors," said Xiaohui Xu, M.D., Ph.D., an assistant professor of epidemiology in the colleges of Public Health and Health Professions and Medicine. "That is why we wanted to do this research. Hypertension (high blood pressure), in particular, is associated with increased morbidity and mortality, causing a lot of problems for the mother and fetus, including preterm delivery."

Hypertensive disorders such as gestational hypertension, preeclampsia and the deadly condition it leads to, eclampsia, affect about 10 percent of pregnancies. Despite the serious risks to mother and baby, little is known about what specifically causes these conditions to develop in pregnant women, the researchers say.

To gain a better understanding of how environmental factors may play a role in increasing the risk of developing hypertension during pregnancy, the researchers examined data from women who gave birth in Jacksonville, Fla., between 2004 and 2005 and environmental data from their communities. The sample included more than 22,000 pregnant women.
The researchers did not include mothers with chronic hypertension, those who had previously given birth prematurely or those whose babies were born with other complications in the sample. They then gauged how much pollution the women were exposed to throughout their pregnancies using data the EPA gathered daily to measure the levels of several pollutants.

Among the sample of women, 4.7 percent developed a hypertensive disorder during pregnancy. Exposure to air pollutants throughout the first two trimesters of pregnancy increased women's risk of developing one of these conditions, Xu said. They determined this after controlling for other factors that could affect a woman's risk for developing hypertension, such as socioeconomic status, exposure to co-pollutants and smoking during pregnancy. But they could not determine conclusively whether exposure early in the pregnancy or late in the pregnancy was more likely to increase a woman's risk for hypertension.

"It looks like the whole period has impacts for hypertension," he said.
On the basis of these findings, the researchers say more air pollution control is necessary to prevent dangerous complications in pregnant women and babies. Although more studies are needed, the researchers hypothesize that exposure to air pollution during pregnancy may affect a woman's normal pattern of blood pressure.
Next, the researchers plan to expand their study throughout the state and also examine other conditions that could be affected by pollution.

"We are trying to look at several outcomes," Xu said. "We also want to look at preterm delivery and low birth-weight and find out what the effects of breathing contaminated air are on fetal development."

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Fathers drinking: Also responsible for fetal disorders?

Fathers drinking: Also responsible for fetal disorders?

Maternal exposure to alcohol in-utero is a known risk and cause of Fetal Alcohol Syndrome. FAS children suffer significant problems such as retarded intellect, stunted growth and nervous system abnormalities, social problems and isolation. Until now Fathers have not had a causal link to such disabilities. Ground breaking new research has been revealed which shows Dads may have more accountability.



Published in Animal Cells and Systems, researchers studied male mice exposed to varying concentrations of alcohol and one control group exposed only to saline.

After exposure the mice were mated and resulting fetuses examined. The findings revealed previously unknown and riveting evidence that paternal alcohol consumption can directly affect fetal development.

A number of fetuses sired by males exposed to alcohol suffered abnormal organ development and or brain development. Those in the saline group were normal. So, can developmental abnormalities be predetermined at fertilization? This research proves so. The authors believe alcohol consumption affects genes in sperm which are responsible for normal fetal development.

Until now fathers' lifestyle choices have not seen any repercussion on their unborn children. This ground-breaking research provides the first definitive evidence that fathers' drinking habits pre-conception can cause significant fetal abnormalities.

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Wednesday, 19 February 2014

Signs That He Really Loves You

                       Signs That He Really Loves You.  

  1---If he calls you more than 5times in a week..

2---- Most times he ignores his friend's company to be with you, when you need him to...

3---He wants to talk with you instead of playing video game, watch football/basketball or go out to drink with friends..


4---He doesn't frown at the idea of coming over to your place even when he knows he is going to meet your parents and siblings...

5----If he likes your friends and never tells you to stop seeing them

6--- He is not possessive and egocentric...

7---- Doesn't treat you like a property that needs to be kept in a static and redundant position..

8----He is ready to hear what you have to say and also respect it..

9--- Doesn't ask for sex to prove your love for him...

10---He feels so proud to introduce you to his friends , partners, associates, colleagues, boss, female friends and most especially sisters and brothers....

11---He never drifts into sleep immediately after sex, he stays awake holding you in his arms and telling you how much he loves you and want to spend the rest of his life with you...

12----He never raises his hands against you no matter the level of provocation...

13---Never forgets your birthday, the day you met and some secret jokes you share..

14---Gets you gift whenever, doesn't wait until you ask or pressure him

15---Always wants to hold your hands in a public place, which means he is so proud to have you...

16---Feels very comfortable hugging, pecking and grooming you in the presence of whoever

17-- Doesn't ask for sex after getting you something or doing a favour...

18---Knows what he wants and always tells you...

19---Talks about a future with you in the picture..

20--He hides nothing from you...

21---Doesn't despise your belief, respects your opinion, regards your advice, listens when you talk, wants to know your position about certain issues, never makes you feel worthless and unappreciated....

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Happy couples can get a big resolution to a big fight; mean talk aside.





Until now, there have been two opposing ideas on negative communication in conflict: one is to refrain from using it, while the other suggests doing so is a natural part of productive interaction to resolve conflict. But findings from the latest research indicate that "neither theory is quite right," said Keith Sanford, Ph.D., associate professor of psychology and neuroscience in Baylor's College of Arts & Sciences.

Sanford's study ("A latent change score model of conflict resolution in couples: Are negative behaviors bad, benign, or beneficial?") appears in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships.
Sanford said his goal was to understand conflict resolution as a process that involves change.

"How is it that a couple can have a big conflict and feel upset with each other, and then later proceed to a new point where the conflict is resolved and they feel happy with each other again?" he said.
He recruited a sample of 734 people in heterosexual marriages or cohabitation relationships. Each participant completed an Internet questionnaire that involved identifying a recent relationship conflict and answering questions about his or her use of negative communication. Importantly, participants also rated how upset they felt when the conflict was at its peak and also how they currently felt about the conflict.
"I used the difference between these two ratings as a measure of the extent of progress participants made toward resolution," Sanford said.

"What I found was that the results were different for people in satisfying relationships and people in unhappy relationships," he said. "For people in satisfying relationships, negative communication was associated with having bigger conflicts, but this effect was entirely harmless because big conflicts were always followed by big resolutions.

"People in satisfying relationships resolved their conflicts regardless of whether they used negative communication or not. In contrast, people in unhappy relationships tended to have big conflicts, and they tended to have trouble resolving their conflicts -- and this was often true regardless of the type of communication they used."
To the extent that negative communication played any role, it appeared to be detrimental for resolution, but this effect was mostly negligible, Sanford said.

"A person's level of relationship satisfaction was, by and large, a much stronger predictor of progress toward conflict resolution," he said. "It is important to keep in mind that communication may still be important in relationships for many reasons other than resolving conflicts. However, when it comes to resolving conflicts, it appears that keeping a feeling of satisfaction alive in a relationship is more important than the type of communication you use."

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The Gladiator

                                                              The Gladiator.
    

I am a gladiator, I glide with no fear, I fight and kill to entertain. I spill blood and never spare a soul, just to please the crowd.
What drives and motivates me is far beyond me, energy, power and anger feeds my vein.
The fear on the face of my enemy, gives me hope, the shout of the spectators play on like a sweet song, the rhythm propels my soul. I hold my sword in anticipation.

The movement of the sharp blade spells doom, when I step into the arena, the world outside exist no more, my lungs is filled with the air of rage, my heart pumps vengeance, while my soul yarns for victory.
Being a gladiator is not my will, but fate and destiny has transformed me into one. At night I try to sneak away from this constant reality, by going into a deep trance because just a sleep will not do the trick.

In trance I see hips of bodies, river of blood and perceive a thick smell of rotten flesh, then I begin to realize how far my sword has gone. The mighty have fallen, the strong has been made weak, while I wallow in the euphoria of this mind intoxicating feeling.
Right inside my soul, I hear voices, very strange voices that keeps ringing bells in my head, which always wake me up to the consciousness I hate to see. I am a gladiator, the one who does not what he pleases but what pleases the world.

I no longer listen to that compassionate side of my heart, instead I let the devil control every beat of my heart. Like red wine, blood flows from the edge of my beautiful but dangerous sword, it pours down like rain to soak the earth and quench the thirst of evil and hatred.

Frivolously I am beginning to accept my new found status, no one should blame me because my heart, spirit and soul have been invaded and conscripted into that of a "GLADIATOR."
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How To Quit Smoking Gradually



                                                           How To Quit Smoking Gradually. 
 1-- You must first fight and conquer the battle inside you, never listen to what they say. Some people will tell you that it is near impossible to stop smoking, but that is feasible if only you let yourself believe it.

Smoking is a spirit, once it has found its way into your life, then it could take some spiritual,psychological and mental battle to fight it and defeat it.
You need to get your psyche ready because, it is going to be tough battle, but don't be scared you will come out victorious.

2-- Avoid every form of idleness, restlessness, depression and loneliness all these predisposes you to engage in smoking, just in order to avoid such situations, try to find something to do, activities like sports, reading, walking, jogging, and so on.

These helps distract your attention, it makes you loose consciousness of wanting to smoke.
The lesser time you have to think about smoking the quicker you are able to stop it.

3-- Take a very bold step, by trying to stay away from most of your friends that smokes. They can not help you quit smoking, the more time you spend with them, the harder and more difficult it is to quit. Change the company of friends you keep, friends who don't smoke or those who have successfully quit the habit. This helps kill smoking totally, because you become so motivated and reassured that there is a solution at sight.

4-- Talk to someone about it,it could be someone who used to smoke but has stopped, a very close friend who doesn't smoke, a professional, or your spiritual leader. Just try to share your feelings with someone, the more you talk about it, the wider exposure the bad habit gets. Don't you know that bad habits thrives in secrecy. The more you talk about it the easier getting rid of it is.

5-- Do not rush the process, take every progress you are making step by step, maybe you used to smoke a packet in two days, and you discover you smoke a pack in a day, that is the progress am talking about. This means that the number of sticks you smoke per day is gradually reducing, just build on that.

6-- Change your life style, maybe there is a spot or bar you normally go to, which gives or brings the desire to smoke, then you need to stop or reduce your going there, do you always walk with lighters, cigarette pack e.t.c. Any thing that would arouse that orgy should be dropped, instead of been in this compromising places why don't you choose a better, life style, like learning to relax with video games, reading, hanging out with friends who don't smoke, taking a walk with your family could also help.. Just make sure your mind is engage with positive things.

7-- Always avoid a "RELAPSE", every relapse plunges you deeper into the habit, which makes it harder for you to stop it. Every progress, every success and every achievement in your quest to stop smoking must not be ignored. The more you work and try to stop it, the harder it seems sometimes.
It could be so bad that you might not see any improvement, do not despair, keep pushing, before you know it, you are out of it even without you noticing. You just discover that days,weeks,months and years goes by without you taking a stick of death. "CIGARETTE".

8-- Last but not the least, pray to what ever you believe in, don't panic, never be anxious, stay focused, stick to your plan, be easy on yourself, never think it is impossible to quit, always remember that it is a gradual process.
The more sticks you take the shorter your days are on earth, it the truth and a fact that can never be denied.

Smoking kills gradually, it destroys the liver, kidneys and your red blood cells, which reduces the level of erythrocyte in your blood and this pre- disposes you to suffering from Cardiac, chest and heart diseases.
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The Reality of Life

                                                            The Reality of Life. 

Night is approaching and another phase of life is coming to a close, what ever might have happened during the day is as good as gone. Morning is coming, this is another reason to be hopeful, hopeful cause what will happen later in the day nobody knows. The ambiance of the early morning breeze is so relieving and reassuring that one tends to forget the worries of life.

The cry of a new born baby signifies a new beginning,because new things start to happen,there is a new affection,love and compassion. The grey hair connotes wisdom but leaves everyone with the thought of a sudden departure,then the heart is prepared for the unexpected.
The mind is so beautiful and gracious,its like a butterfly,it can soar freely in search of lasting imaginations.

The world is so big, that is why it has so much to worry about,issues like GLOBAL WARMING, NUCLEAR WEAPONS, TERRORISM, POVERTY AND CORRUPTION.
Think of this, ''humility is like nectar that attracts bees to a flower, it attracts favor, while arrogance is like a foul smell, it repels every hand of help and friendship."
So start believing and working in reality.

THE BEAUTY OF LIFE IS FOR ONLY THOSE WHO BELIEVE AND LIVE UNDER THE ATMOSPHERE OF JOY AND LOVE. Who ever down plays the importance of Time definitely can't appreciate the beauty in love cause both words are so vital and relevant in the day to day activities of every living being.

Time, time, a word as close in importance and value as love. Time moves quietly with pseuodopic feet, it moves gradually and casually. It never gets tired of moving as if that was what it was created for moving everyday.
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Tuesday, 18 February 2014

How to leave a positive/lasting 1st impression


How to leave a positive/lasting 1st impression.

   1------ Endeavour to always look as simple and presentable as possible, don't be caught in a shabby or untidy dress, be as clean as possible, like we know a dirty place repels..

2----- Always wear an infectious and genuine smile, try to lighten up in public, don't look to serious , angry, annoyed or irritated.

3------ When meeting someone for the first time, try to look into the persons eyes, in a very polite and formal way.

4----- Don't get too informal at the first meeting, because you could say something that can be misconstrued and seen as been rude or indecent.

5------ Be sincere with your comments and compliments, never sound sarcastic, and never mock anyone you meet.

6---- Never try to impress anyone, be yourself and be as comfortable as possible.

7----Its better to stay quiet than talk when you know nothing about what you've just said.

8----Be respectful, courteous, be ready to listen, try not to lie, don't exhibit arrogance, it reples a hand of friendship, don't settle for less, stand on what you believe in, don't look or appear lost in your own thought and work on your confidence..

9------ Always adhere to basic social/ public etiquette, which are.....
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.... Don't chew gum in a formal gathering
----Avoiding hissing/ sighing in public
----Never fart in public
----When you cough/ sneeze excuse yourself and cover your mouth/ nose with a clean handkerchief.
----Try not to shake someone with your left hand
----As a lady learn to sit properly in public.
----Don't be a snub.
----Learn to use these words as often as possible (EXCUSE ME &PLEASE)
----Don't appear to be too argumentative or contentious, this could leave a damaging 1st impression.
----Give your opinion when talking don't impose it, that could be very irritating.
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With all these clues i believe you are just a step away form creating that lasting 1st impression.......

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HOW TO LIVE A PRUDENT LIFE WITHOUT STRIVE


HOW TO LIVE A PRUDENT LIFE WITHOUT STRIVE.

  1------ Always have a budget, stick to it, have a budget that caters for the very important needs .2----- Reduce your shopping habit, not all you see in a shop must go home with you.
3------ Learn to make sacrifices, there are are so many things you know you can do without, why don't you let them go, so you can save that money.

4------- When the need arises to render a genuine financial assistance please do ,cause you never know how far it will go.

5------ Purchase assets instead of liabilities, spend your money on items that add extra value to your financial life.

6----- Don't live on debt, dept is like a pit that once you've entered its very hard to come out..

7----- Have an effective saving plan, out of every income, dash or allowance try to cut 20% of it as savings.

8----- Try as much as possible to reduce handling of raw cash,instead use more credit/debit cards, Atm machines , because the more cash you have on you the faster it leaves your hands.

9----- When the opportunity arises for you to invest some money, please do, if you are sure of it, that little invest might turn out to be a life time of fortune and wealth.

10----- Always have this at the back of your mind " ONE PENNY WASTED COULD BE AN OPPORTUNITY LOST".

These are very simple ways to get out of poverty for life, if only you can abide by this principles and stick to them, without looking back....
Learn to manage your money and put into judicious use of every penny  you've worked for.....

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How to walk out of a relationship without scars..


How to walk out of a relationship without scars..

1----- When the fire is no more burning, try to call it off without acrimony or fight...
2----- Try to avoid the former, in what ever way you can, because the more you see your former the harder it is to get over it.... 

3--- Don't be too hard on yourself when apportioning blames, just have it at the back of your mind that maybe it(relationship) wasn't meant to be...

4----Never try to seek revenge or vindication by rushing into another relationship immediately because at this point your are vulnerable , which could expose you to been taken advantage of..

5---After the shock of a breakup, never try to cover up or ignore the fact that something is actually wrong, instead express your emotion but don't be too expressive about it..

6---Keep all personal effect of your "EX" away like pictures, clothes, shoes and so on...

7--- Have it at the back of your mind that it might take time to get over it, so take everyday as it comes, don't try to rush out of the effect, take things gradually....

8---Never let your past experience change your mind about relationships generally, that way you are able to move on and free yourself from the shackles of your past, which helps you to find a better relationship...

9--- Don't try to go after your "EX" it would only prolong the emotional trauma....

10--- The greatest mistake you can make is try to suppress your emotion through ( DRUGS, DRINKS, FOOD, PARTIES) and so on because they will only plunge you deeper into a world of illusions and pain....

11--- Learn from your past relationships, pick out the wrongs and try to work on them...

12--- The last but not the least, when you think of your Ex, just imagine an old habit you have successfully dropped and not willing to go back to it.....

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The mystery behind a smile


                       The mystery behind a smile.

  A smile though not as loud and cracking as laughter but the power and efficacy it possesses give to it a stupendous dignity, a dignity that carries bountiful energy... 

A baby uses its innocent but sweet smile to capture the attention and love of its mother, a stubborn son, diffuses the fiery anger in his father's heart with a pleading smile.. 

Never should you under estimate the potency and vitality of a smile, that simple smile on your face could travel a thousand mile into the heart and soul of someone near you who really needs it, why deny him/her that beautiful pleasure... 

The question i want to ask is "HOW OFTEN DO YOU SMILE?",most of us find it very easy to wear a face cracking frown, a frown that scares away love and friendship instead of a smile, that i still don't understand..... 

Just like nectar attracts bees to a flower, so does a beautiful and genuine smile attracts endless warmth, love and respect to a man/woman.. Everyone of us should make it a point of duty to always live and dwell under the influence of a bright and infectious smile, maybe its just a smile you need to win that attention you've been craving for, or maybe that smile could get you that respect you so much desire, just try it and see.... 

I believe this world will be a better place if everyone of us try to reflect that love and peace that dwells inside our souls through a smile... This simple act(smile) is a sweet act, that sows seed of compassion and emotion into the hardest of hearts, its strength is in its simplicity, its beauty is in its reality, a reality that breathes a loving conviviality, it is mysterious because of its undeniable subtlety..... 

The more smile you wear the more joy and peace you spread, to the people around you just like a virus, it takes so little to smile but requires you so much to frown, so try to smile more, i mean the real smile not the plastic one that most celebrities wear in front of a camera, thats not the smile am talking about...

 For you who suffer from low confidence that smile can make it up to you, if only you don't fake it..

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Monday, 17 February 2014

Growing number of chemicals linked with brain disorders in children. 

Toxic chemicals may be triggering the recent increases in neurodevelopmental disabilities among children -- such as autism, attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder, and dyslexia -- according to a new study from Harvard School of Public Health (HSPH) and Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai. The researchers say a new global prevention strategy to control the use of these substances is urgently needed.



The report will be published online February 15, 2014 in Lancet Neurology.

"The greatest concern is the large numbers of children who are affected by toxic damage to brain development in the absence of a formal diagnosis. They suffer reduced attention span, delayed development, and poor school performance. Industrial chemicals are now emerging as likely causes," said Philippe Grandjean, adjunct professor of environmental health at HSPH.

The report follows up on a similar review conducted by the authors in 2006 that identified five industrial chemicals as "developmental neurotoxicants," or chemicals that can cause brain deficits. The new study offers updated findings about those chemicals and adds information on six newly recognized ones, including manganese, fluoride, chlorpyrifos and DDT (pesticides), tetrachloroethylene (a solvent), and the polybrominated diphenyl ethers (flame retardants).
The study outlines possible links between these newly recognized neurotoxicants and negative health effects on children, including:
  • Manganese is associated with diminished intellectual function and impaired motor skills
  • Solvents are linked to hyperactivity and aggressive behavior
  • Certain types of pesticides may cause cognitive delays
Grandjean and co-author Philip Landrigan, Dean for Global Health at Mount Sinai, also forecast that many more chemicals than the known dozen or so identified as neurotoxicants contribute to a "silent pandemic" of neurobehavioral deficits that is eroding intelligence, disrupting behaviors, and damaging societies. But controlling this pandemic is difficult because of a scarcity of data to guide prevention and the huge amount of proof needed for government regulation. "Very few chemicals have been regulated as a result of developmental neurotoxicity," they write.

The authors say it's crucial to control the use of these chemicals to protect children's brain development worldwide. They propose mandatory testing of industrial chemicals and the formation of a new international clearinghouse to evaluate industrial chemicals for potential developmental neurotoxicity.
"The problem is international in scope, and the solution must therefore also be international," said Grandjean. "We have the methods in place to test industrial chemicals for harmful effects on children's brain development -- now is the time to make that testing mandatory."

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Friday, 14 February 2014

Marriage's 'haves' and 'have nots': Changing expectations and rising inequality improve best marriages, but undermine average marriages

Marriage's 'haves' and 'have nots': Changing expectations and rising inequality improve best marriages, but undermine average marriages.




Those conflicting realities don't bode well for the majority of marriages, according to Eli Finkel, professor of psychology in the Weinberg College of Arts and sciences and professor of management and organizations at the Kellogg School of Management at Northwestern and the lead author of the study. But today's best marriages -- those in which the spouses invest enough time and energy in bolstering the marital relationship to help each other achieve what they seek from the marriage -- are flourishing even more than the best marriages of yesteryear.

What accounts for these divergent trends?
Many scholars and social commentators have argued that contemporary Americans are, to their peril, expecting more of their marriage than in the past. But Finkel, who wrote the article in collaboration with Northwestern graduate students Ming Hui, Kathleen Carswell and Grace Larson, disagrees.

"The issue isn't that Americans are expecting more versus less from their marriage, but rather that the nature of what they are expecting has changed," Finkel said. "They're asking less of their marriage regarding basic physiological and safety needs, but they're asking more of their marriage regarding higher psychological needs like the need for personal growth."
According to Finkel, these changes over time in what Americans are seeking from their marriage are linked to broader changes in the nation's economic and cultural circumstances.

In the decades after America's Declaration of Independence in 1776, the nation primarily consisted of small farming villages in which the household was the unit of economic production and wage labor outside the home was rare. During that era, the primary functions of marriage revolved around meeting basic needs like food production, shelter and physical safety.
"In 1800, the idea of marrying for love was ludicrous," Finkel said. "That isn't to say that people didn't want love from their marriage; it just wasn't the point of marriage."

Starting around 1850, the nation began a sharp and sustained transition toward urbanization, and the husband-breadwinner/wife-homemaker model of marriage became increasingly entrenched. With these changes, and as the nation became wealthier, the primary functions of marriage revolved less around basic needs and more around needs pertaining to love and companionship.
"To be sure," Finkel observed, "marriage remained an economic institution, but the fundamental reason for getting married and for achieving happiness within the marriage increasingly revolved around love and companionship."

Starting with the various countercultural revolutions of the 1960s, a third model of marriage emerged. This third model continued to value love and companionship, but many of the primary functions of marriage now involved helping the spouses engage in a voyage of self-discovery and personal growth.

"In contemporary marriages, "Finkel notes, "Americans look to their marriage to help them 'find themselves' and to pursue careers and other activities that facilitate the expression of their core self."
Finkel is generally enthusiastic about these historical changes, as having a marriage meet one's needs for self-discovery and personal growth can yield extremely high-quality marriages. Yet, he has doubts about whether the majority of American marriages can, at present, meet spouses' new psychological expectations of their marriage.

According to Finkel, when the primary functions of marriage revolved around shelter and food production, there wasn't much need for spouses to achieve deep insight into each other's core psychological essence. As the primary functions shifted to love and then to self-expression, however, it became increasingly essential for spouses to develop such insight.
"However, developing such insight requires a heavy investment of time and psychological resources in the marriage, not to mention strong relationship skills and interpersonal compatibility," Finkel said.

Those marriages that are successful in meeting the two spouses' love and self-expression goals are extremely happy -- happier than the best marriages in earlier eras. Yet, according to Finkel, divorce rates remain high, and average marital satisfaction among intact marriages is declining slightly, because most spouses simply are not putting the amount of time and psychological investment required to help each other's love and self-expressive needs. Spouses with children have reallocated much of their time to intensive parenting, and spouses without children have reallocated much of it to longer workdays.

Indeed, Americans are, on average, spending much less time alone with their spouse than they did several decades ago. As such, there's an increasing disconnect, on average, between the needs Americans are looking to their marriage to help them achieve and the resources they are investing to make such need fulfillment possible.

The good news is that there are relatively straightforward ways to allow your marriage to breathe. The suffocation model is all about supply and demand.
"You can demand less from your partner, focusing less on resource-intensive self-expressive needs, or supply more time and other resources into the marriage," Finkel said.

He points to a seemingly simple, but very effective, option, a 21-minute writing intervention that he and his colleagues developed that could help preserve marital quality over time in which spouses wrote about conflict in their marriage from the perspective of a third party who wants the best for all involved.
"The idea is that you can use limited resources better," Finkel said.

"In general, if you want your marriage to help you achieve self-expression and personal growth, it's crucial to invest sufficient time and energy in the marriage. If you know that the time and energy aren't available, then it makes sense to adjust your expectations accordingly to minimize disappointment."

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Facts You Should Know About A MAN/GUY

                                           Facts You Should Know About A MAN/GUY




  As a lady you need to know certain facts about a man/guy, so that you can co-exist with this supposed complicated species of human kind. He will always be in your face at all times whether you like it or not, so won’t it be better you to get to know how he works right from the inside.

1. They are so slow to mature and grow physically and mentally, so when you judge or weigh their intelligence, knowledge and experience you need to be very careful, do not judge by what you see.

2. A man is so not as emotional has you think, he can separate his emotions from everything he does, which is why they find it very easy to cheat.

3. They gossip to, but not has hard and serious as you.

4. Most men have a very good sense of humour, so do not be too surprised, it comes with the package.

5. They always enjoy someone who can engage them in thought provoking conversations and arguments. It sparks something inside him.

6. A man loves money more than sex, believe it or not.

7. Most things he does is driven and controlled by his pride, ego and patriarchal ideology about life.

8. He enjoys doing the chasing, but hates being taken advantage of.

9. A man/guy thinks of sex like every day, if he has his way he will engage in it as often as possible, it helps boost his male ego and pride, so he was told.

10. He loves his sports (football, etc.) and video games; you can’t come in between them, so live with it.

11. They are so not multitasking; he faces what he is doing at the moment with 100% concentration.

12. Every man hates been fake, or artificial, he loves and appreciates been real.

13. In groups they talk about, sex, politics, sports, money, funny stuffs, breakups, a new catch, the next target, they hardly talk about love, to them that is a girl talk.

14. He is not comfortable around you when he discovers how educated, intelligent, confident, bold and well informed you are. This comes to him as a surprise, but with time he will learn to deal with it.

15. They are so slow to fall in love, even though they say it so often, most are not as romantic as you expect or imagine.

16. They fear commitment anything that points to it, to them that is outside their comfort zone.

17. Every man/guy loves his mother to death. He can never love you more than his mother, never.

18. He could be very wasteful with money and time.

19. He always thinks he can win you over with gifts and money.

20. A man never assumes, he must be sure before making any move.

21. What comes out from his mouth most times is different from how he actually feels inside his mind.

22. He hardly suffers from mood swing; he is always on the high.

23. He hates to be judged, monitored, controlled, suspected and ignored, even though he gives you every reason to do so.

24. He cares less about his looks, but he really loves his shoes. They are more important.

25. Do not hold any man/guy by the shirt, if you don’t want to get something else.

26. To him sex is not equal to love, no matter how often and crazy you give it to him.

27. He could actually be a good friend if you let him to.

28. Most see the woman as sex object and baby producing factory, except you prove him wrong.

29. They could be distracted by a sexy body, they love bosoms, believe it or not.

30. Once he is in love that is it, there is no turning back,but it might take time.


1.       A man is not as complicated as you think, the only problem is, they do the opposite of what they say, which means never take all he says as the gospel truth.

2.       To have a man has a platonic friend is far better than rushing into love and sex oriented relationship with him.

3.       A man making money is a happy man.

4.       Friendship to him is a bond that is why a man hardly goes after his friend’s girlfriend or wife.

5.       He likes to be in charge at all times, once is ego is tampered with, he will quietly with draw from that thing.

6.       He prefers to show you his love than keep telling you every time.

7.       A man shows you the side of him that you want to see, they deal with you the way you present yourself.

8.       A man needs his space, he loves his own quality time and this time may not necessarily have you in the picture. He just wants to be alone, with is friends, drinks, games and just hang out with new faces. That doesn’t mean he doesn’t love or want you. So know that.

9.       Very weird things impress a man, because he is most times hard to impress.

These are a fact that stands to be corrected, but a deep look at it will tell you most are actually true. 
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