MY WORLD OF TRUTH

                   Unforgivable Mistakes You Make in public.

When in public be ready to meet so many people with different ideology, mentality, belief, racial and cultural background. With this at the back of your mind, you are saved from assuming, pre profiling, prejudices, stereotyping, racism and discrimination. Always prepare your mind for whatever comes, remember that how you behave in public could either make or mare your ambitions or dreams. 

1. The first mistake you make is always waiting for the next person to greet first or exchange pleasantries. Imagine everyone thinking like that, or the next person having that kind of mentality, just imagine how the world would look like. That means we all may never get to make friends and get to know the next person better.

Always try as much as possible to be ready to say Hi, Hello and how are you doing, who says it first does not matter at all. With this kind of attitude you hardly get into problems in relating with people in a public place. Some says saying hello or hi first makes you look like a fool, makes you appear cheap or easy, but it is far from it.

2. Looking down on people, even before meeting them. You just feel everyone around you is not just up to your level or standard. That is a very big mistake anyone can make in a public place. Everyone just takes you as arrogant, egocentric and cocky. It could be very, very disastrous. Not until you say it, unconsciously it comes out and the people around you pick it like a strong vibe.

3. Being careless and over bearing on the way you dress in public is another great mistake you make unknowingly, the first point of contact or mode of communication is nonverbal most times, which is through your dress sense. people think until they wear the most expensive and most times not fitting clothes, they are not complete, or thinking very loud and crazy colour combination could help get you the needed attention. That is why you need to know that how you see yourself is far better than how you make the world or public see you. To be on the saver side just be as simple and clean as possible.

4. Exhibiting low self-confidence. Never at any point try to avoid eye contact and do not look down when talking. Know that as long as you are in the public, eyes will always be on you. Some give you a warm and friendly gaze, while some just look on with disgust and all manner of thoughts going through their mind, that shouldn’t faze you. All that matters is how to get around and mix smoothly in public.

5. You are a victim if you always wear a straight and expressionless face. This attitude is repulsive and leaves you isolated in your corner. Try as much as possible to exchange a smile, give a smile when necessary and never be caught laughing so loud like you are the only one there.

6. Loose talkers, if you talk before thinking then you are in this category. Learn how to talk in public, how to be courteous and respectful. There are certain words that must be at your fingertips, they should fall off from your lips effortlessly. Words like “Excuse me, could you, please, May I, Sorry and thank you”.

7. Getting involved in an argument or discussion you know little or nothing about. This could be like nailing your own coffin. Not everything you hear you comment on, especially if the information and knowledge you have about the issue or topic in question is not concrete enough. Being quiet sometimes saves you form been called or seen as a fool or slowpoke. Never assume you know when you don’t.

8. Living a fake and scripted life is another mistake you make in public, or around people, this kind of life always backfire. When you make people see you as what you are not. When you act in public, you are predisposed to lying, when you lie, you tend to put yourself under unnecessary pressure. Be as real as possible, what you don’t like let them know you don’t like it, what you can’t eat, don’t take it close to your mouth, what you don’t know how to use don’t be quick to use it. Being real earns you respect and audience.

9. Never get lost in your own thought, try as much as possible to be in touch with where ever you are. Be pro-active in a very descent and cool way. Be ready to be part in anything that goes on around you, but not everything. Be where ever you are with your spirit, mind and body.

10. Condemning other people’s religion, belief, ideology, mentality, culture, race, way of life and opinion. Be open minded and ready to accommodate the next person’s view, even if it doesn’t support yours. Know that we all are different due to our backgrounds and environment. Always have this at the back of your mind.

11. As a lady, not knowing how to sit in public is another grave mistake any lady can make. The way you sit most times says a lot about who you are; learn how to sit like a lady, be conscious about yourself, be guarded and protected at all times.