As an introvert you may need an extrovert, as a quiet person you may need someone to put you in the talking mood. That person that can get you out of your comfort zone, into a state of mind that holds no inhibition. The most important thing is, learn to know and identify where you really belong so you can attract the right personality to yourself.

Note: In a relationship both parties can afford to have a difference of 60-70% in their temperament, it is like balancing an equation.

2.       A thorough and productive communication and not just chit-chat or casual talking. You could talk and not communicate, but you can communicate even without talking. In a relationship there must be adequate and comprehensive communication which includes talking, listening, and a good feedback.  Once any of it is missing or misplaced, assumption sets in, which births misunderstanding, friction, tension, pressure and pain. All of these then predisposes the relationship to an abrupt end. It is compulsory and mandatory that both parties know 98% of everything about anything that means something about each other. Very important.

3.       There must be a focus, goal and plan. A focus is when both of you know where the relationship is actually heading, in terms of goals, there must have been a positive achievement and development (intellectually, socially, spiritually, mentally, emotionally and so on). All of these must have taken place in the course of the relationship for it to be called a real relationship. If at the end you find out that nothing really has changed positively in your lives while together, you either tell yourself the truth no matter how bitter it taste or you remain on the same spot all in the name of an opaque love.

4.       There must be a personal goal, as an individual you must define clearly what you want from a relationship. Never get caught in the waves of a blind and crazy emotion. Is it fun, love, a platonic friendship, business/work, commitment, pleasure, material benefits or just security? Know and define what you really what, so you don’t fall victim to emotional confusion, because once you get caught in that web you end up settling for less.

5.       A relationship was not meant to put pressure on any aspect or facet of your life. If it does then you need to retrace your steps and look back at the mistakes you have made.

Never you remain in a relationship just to save face, be noticed, accepted or praised. No relationship is worth dying for that is why we are mortals. If it is not working try to make it work, but if it can’t be repaired be prepared to take that bold step.

6.       Any relationship done in the hidden is not pure, it won’t last and it could be called a cult. It must be exposed or terminated. A relationship that has no identity is like a body that has no soul. Once there is secrecy then something is really wrong. When the foundation of its origin is built on deception, lies and self-imposed denial, then that relationship will crumble with time, because time either makes it stronger or exposes its deep rooted weakness.