MY WORLD OF TRUTH

3.         It is just like when a football club says they don’t want a particular player anymore and the player keeps forcing himself on them, I bet you, such a player will grow old on the bench, and later lose taste and flair for the game itself. The same goes for you when you try or force your way back to the same person.

4.       Try to break every form of contact with the person, do away with their numbers, pictures, and clothes if you have any, shoes and so on. It may sound harsh, but the more you see those things the harder for your heart to get heal. Don’t you know that for you to get healed emotionally you must get over your past love/crush/fling. So do yourself that favour and clear their thoughts from your memory and your store. A broken heart never gets healed if the memory of the past still haunts it.

5.       Never seek solace in alcohol, drugs, food, work or a particular habit or activity that can easily plunge you into addiction and depression. Avoid them as possible as you can.

6.       Get closer to your friends, communicate more. Talk about how you feel with people close to you. Do not bottle your anger, pain, fears and regrets. They are big loads that need to be shed off or shared with someone close to you. The more you talk about it, the better you feel and the quicker you recover from the heart break.

7.       Never tell yourself or make yourself believe you can’t move on without that person. That is the side effect of a crazy and blind love. Always tell yourself that “life goes on anyway”. Psyche up your mind with books and good spirit lifting music.

8.       Do not isolate yourself; isolation gets your heart so weak and sad. Get out of that cocoon of melancholy, mix up with people, find new adventures and get ready for the next challenge; they will always come no matter what happens.

9.       Get ready for some flash backs, the images and thought of the person in question seem not to want to let go in any way. Know that it may take time to get rid or delete most of these images from your heart and mind. So brace up for that, to be on the safer side avoid isolation.

10.   Be slow to get involved romantically with anyone, getting back into a relationship immediately after a heart break is not good for your heart in any way. This will not give your heart time to heal and mend properly before another taste of romance. You need to gather strength and courage, if you enter into another relationship almost immediately; it puts you in a very vulnerable position.

11.   Try to see the beak up or heart break from another angle, like maybe it was actually a “good riddance to bad rubbish”.

12.   Give yourself some time, like a target. In the next 3-6months you should be over and done with mopping, ready to pick up the pieces and get set for the new race.